How to Answer Questions
Better Than Anyone Else
Be as willing to
respond to questions as you are willing to ask them. If you hesitate to answer,
people think you aren’t cooperative, don’t know the answer, don’t know what
you’re doing, or that you lack confidence. You might even be viewed as acting
arrogant and superior in your nonresponse.
Choose your words and tone carefully to hit the right
degree of clarity.
Listen to what the
question is. Keep a “pass the salt” tone of voice with no hidden agenda
emotion. Maintain a relaxed facial expression.
Attentively lean forward to answer the questions
simply, concisely, truthfully, and targeted to the audience.
Follow the USA Today’s
slogan: “Not the most words, just the right ones.” Keep the answers organized.
Use complete sentences. End sentences. Provide one thought at a time.
Practice important or complicated answers when you’re
not on the hot seat
so that the answers
come to you more readily when you are. Think about what you should, could, or
want to answer to a question. Rehearse it in your head, and depending on the
importance, rehearse it on your smart phone then play it back to hear how you
sound. Listen and think how it will sound to others and how they’ll likely
react. Change your wording if necessary to get the reaction you want.
Try out different words to test the different effects.
Follow the
instructions given to airline pilots who are taught to select words that
minimize travelers’ anxiety. The phrasing “The new departure or arrival time
is…,” is better than the word “late.” The word “gate” is preferable to
“terminal.” And “destination” sure beats “final destination.”
Choose descriptive words
since they have their
own body language: For example, “We get a lot of referrals” is bland compared
to, “We get a beautiful number of referrals.” “We work well together,” is less
convincing than “We work in harmony.”
If you don’t know the answer, say you don’t and then go find it
out. Don’t fake or try to fool with the hope that “if you throw things against
the wall some will stick.” Don’t attempt to show how much you know when in
truth you’re disorganized and nervous and don’t know. “I don’t know but I’ll
find out,” works.
“Yes” and “no” are perfectly acceptable answers to
almost every question.
They avoid the groan,
“How short the question; how long the answer.”
“That’s something I choose not to answer,” can be your response if
they are just being nosy. You don’t have to answer every question (just as they
don’t have to answer yours), but it does tend to stop the conversation flow.
“I’m just going to skip
that question” is an answer that works sometimes. It’s more straightforward
than what politicians are taught in the art of “nonanswer.” As former White
House insider George Stephanopoulos explains it, “The fundamental rule is to shoehorn
what you want to say into the answer no matter what the question is.”
If you keep getting the same questions, you’re not answering well.
Answer, and then ask, “Is that what you were asking?” or “Does that answer the
question?” to make sure you did. Keep it a conversation, not an interview. Pay
attention to micro-questions the person is asking. Pay attention to people’s
answers to your questions. You need to hear and know their interests and
priorities to determine the answers you need to give and questions you need to
continue to ask.
Return to questions that were unanswered by you because they got
skipped over with “Something I may not have explained well….” It shows you
listen, remember, and take responsibility to answer as asked.
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